Matthias J Barker

@matthiasjbarker

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Matthias J Barker (@matthiasjbarker) has 2.8M followers and 48.7M likes on TikTok across 729 videos, based in US.

For estranged parents & adult children Psychotherapist Free workshop ⬇️

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Followers

2.8M

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Likes

48.7M

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Videos

729

1d +0.14%7d +0.83%30d —

Following

639

Followers

One reading a day

2.8M2.8M

Sep 27Oct 4, 2026

Likes

Total likes received, one reading a day

48.7M48.7M

Sep 27Oct 4, 2026

Top videos, last 90 days

Most viewed first. The curve is the video's views, one reading a day.

Posted	Video	Views	Likes	Comments	Views curve
Aug 3	Every text feels like a test you might fail. Every call could be the one that pushes them further away. So you freeze, or you spiral trying…	107.9K	4,947	408	1 day
Jul 30	You're not making a problem. You're naming a problem. It's disorienting when you're the one who stepped outside the family script and every…	32K	3,270	60	1 day
Aug 14	Growing up with a father who seemed perfect sounds like a gift. But it can leave you feeling like you'll never measure up. When a dad never…	15.8K	660	85	1 day
Jul 27	Some adult children turn "you traumatized me" into a kind of invoice. I call it debt collecting. The logic runs like this: because you hurt…	14.3K	725	22	1 day
Sep 22	It's not about admitting you were wrong. It's about witnessing what it was like for them. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff	13.3K	733	44
Sep 25	You don't have to agree on what happened to apologize for what they didn't feel. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff	13K	837	28
Aug 11	The most concrete thing you can do about estrangement isn't coping. It's grieving. Grief work is the actual activity of healing, and it doe…	12.9K	709	0	1 day
Aug 21	A third of the texts people send me fall into this exact pattern: big blowup yesterday, then the next morning dad texts, "Hey, hope you're…	12.7K	644	19	1 day
Jul 28	Estrangement usually isn't the problem. It's the symptom. Underneath it there's almost always a disconnection: a place where someone stoppe…	12.2K	681	42	1 day
Aug 4	The divide between parents and adult children is quietly becoming the central fault line in our culture. It sits underneath every political…	11.8K	478	21	1 day
Aug 19	When my daughter told me "it makes me feel like you don't love me," my heart wanted to jump straight into defense mode. I wanted to explain…	9,792	844	12	1 day
Aug 6	There's a difference between "I need space" and "contact me through my lawyer." When someone tells you they need distance, the instinct is…	9,123	444	14	1 day
Sep 23	Reconciliation without healing just means going back to being thirsty. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff	9,099	603	30
Sep 18	Sometimes the truth isn't enough. Your kid needed their dad, even if you had good reasons for not being there. #estrangement #cutoff #nocon…	8,618	423	9
Sep 19	You're allowed to say no to a hug from your mom. Figure out what feels right for you.	8,277	255	9
Aug 2	You can't process the trauma while it's still happening. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff	8,121	378	21	·
Jul 26	When a parent won't believe in your diagnosis, it can feel like they're rejecting your pain. A lot of the time they're rejecting the label,…	7,328	425	10	·
Aug 26	Cutting contact before you've healed the past keeps you stuck in the old pattern. #estrangement #nocontact #cutoff	6,009	345	18	1 day
Aug 15	When a parent says they don’t believe in mental health, they’re usually not rejecting your pain. They’re rejecting the label. A lot of them…	5,819	302	36	1 day
Aug 25	What if you saw your child not as your enemy, but as your mirror, would that change what you're willing to look at? Most parents see a chil…	4,570	218	7	1 day

Details

Username: @matthiasjbarker
Creator id: 6805935272502969350
Account created: Mar 19, 2020
Country: US
Language: en
Last read: Oct 4, 2026 23:46 UTC

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